You’ve Screwed Up - Now What Do You Do
Posted on October 27, 2008 - Filed Under women\'s eye care | Leave a Comment
OK everyone - even the Sales Diva is not immune to screwing up royally every now and then! I can’t believe I am actually going to tell you what happened to me recently… but it will give you a laugh!
I was recently asked by a local college to do a tele-class call. No problem. Booked the date. Booked the time. Was completely prepared for the 8 pm call.
Went for dinner at 5:30 pm. By 6:50 pm I was on the road and only 10 minutes from home.
Then it happened…
Boom!
One of the rear wheel tires on my car started making that “thumping” noise that we all dread.
The problem? I am on a major city freeway with traffic whipping past me at 100 miles per hour.
Problem #2?
Cell phone battery has barely enough juice to make one call.
Problem #3?
I don’t have the number of the facilitator - I only have her office number!
You know what happened - I called a tow truck - left a breathless message for the facilitator and then sat in my car on the freeway for an hour- and missed the tele-class entirely..the one I was supposed to appear on as a guest!
Screw-ups Do Happen - So What’s The First Step?
1. Act quickly. This is not a time for putting your head in the sand, getting defensive and not accepting responsibility!
What did I do? I left 2 messages for the facilitator, e-mailed her and then also called immediately the next morning. (You can imagine the sleep I had!) I apologized profusely for the stress and embarrassment I had caused her and asked her what I could do to make the situation better.
2. Do Whatever Needs To Be Done - Quickly. The facilitator was fabulous. She had been worried about me as she knew I would never leave her in that type of situation on purpose.
Her students were very understanding and they were also worried about me! We set a date for a second call the following week and recorded a fabulous session.
3. Over-Deliver. Don’t just meet the needs of your customer…over-deliver. I sent an apology note to the participants of the call and I also sent a gift - a report they could use for their businesses immediately.
We have all screwed up at one point or another - however - the true mistake is when you don’t handle it properly!
Who do you need to contact today to solve a problem that you have caused? As my mom would say ” SNAP OUT OF IT” and get your act in gear - you will feel soooooo much better and so will your customer!
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Kim Duke, The Sales Diva, provides savvy, sassy sales training for women small biz owners and entrepreneurs. Kim works with clients internationally, showing them The Sales Diva secrets to success! Sign up for her saucy and smart FREE e-zine and receive her FREE Bonus Report “The 5 Biggest Sales Mistakes Women Make” at http://www.salesdivas.com
Tags: diva, marketing, sales, selling, womenBe Abundant…Set a New Mental Equivalent
Posted on October 26, 2008 - Filed Under women\'s eye care | Leave a Comment
Limiting beliefs, just like positive, empowering thoughts, provide a foundation for our experiences and what we demonstrate. Old beliefs can leave us behind - and are often stale, lingering ideas left-over from our childhood experiences or from other areas of life that no longer carry any useful meaning. Abandoning negative assumptions about lack opens room to develop an abundant mindset. We can do that by setting a new mental equivalent that resets the dial on our trust channel - the channel we listen to that tells us to trust that we already have everything. A belief system must change in order to create a new reality.
Emmet Fox, a 1940’s New Thought minister and author, stressed the importance of setting a mental equivalent to create an abundant life, borrowing the term from chemistry and physics. For example, engineers must work out the equivalent of heat in order to determine how much energy it represents in the form of another energy. They can determine how much fuel it takes to drive an engine and how much processing energy it takes to produce the fuel. A mental equivalent is a wonderful metaphor for how we are perfectly capable of instituting positive change in our lives and world. Like engineers, we can create the equivalent of every experience or object in the physical world by changing the thought to which it corresponds.
Scientifically, we’ve accepted that one kind of energy translates into another to produce that same effect. Everything on earth is energy anyway. All matter, when it’s broken down into sub-atomic particles, is energy. This article is energy, the dog is energy, you are energy. The same is true for the energy of thought. To attract goodness, you must set a mental equivalent of goodness by accepting you are worthy of receiving good, visualizing it, and feeling the goodness coming to you. If you want prosperity, wealth, happiness, that is where you must spend time mentally, not once a week, but all the time.
Emmet taught that whatever you want in life - a satisfying job, healthy body, friends, or opportunities, you must first set a mental equivalent to attract it. If you have something you want to get rid of - ill health, strife or poverty - then first get rid of the mental equivalent by striking the belief that those ideas and experiences must be part of your world and the world at large. Shed your old mental equivalent skin. Then you will begin to make change, not just for yourself but for others around you.
Feel what you want with tremendous emotion, be grateful, rejoice in the abundance of everything. Notice joy and prosperity everywhere, be thankful to be part of an incredible, spiritual universal equation of such magnificent complexity that you are humbled by its awe. Think gigantic. Set the bar as high as you want - there is no reason to feel limited because your true nature makes that impossible anyway. Don’t be fearful of living, of failure, of the future - you already know how unproductive fear can be, as our collective consciousness has translated fear over the millennium into a belief in lack, poverty, and illness.
Emmet’s concept of mastery included two key principles he called clarity and interest. An abundant life is derived from the ability to mentally straddle the line between clarity, or knowing exactly what you want and believing you are already in receipt of it, and interest, or the emotional feelings you have about what you want. People generally have a problem with clarity. There’s an old saying, “If you don’t know where you’re going any road will get you there.” In other words, by not knowing exactly what you want, or how you define your success and dreams, you can take any path and wander indefinitely. You’ll receive exactly what you’ve asked for, and that is a nebulous vision of success and dreams. First homework assignment in Manifestation 101: ask for what you want. Visualize it clearly and revisit the idea often.
An error people frequently make is articulating what they want in great detail, but they lack the passion or belief in the idea. If you want to use part two of Emmet’s abundance formula, then you must be sincerely interested in what you want, and emotional about seeing yourself within the idea. You must absolutely love what you want, love your vision passionately, feel it deeply, embrace it, live and breathe it. That is how something becomes part of you. It’s how you claim it as your own.
Your experiences, as well as what physical objects you manifest, are effects of your thinking because they are all tempered by your belief system. Greed, selfishness, war, lack, bad economic conditions, or struggle can be manifested because they flow through a belief system, or your outer layers. We are always told not to judge by appearances. Why? Because the appearance has no value in itself. Nothing is what it seems on the outside, meaning, the effect has those attributes that you give it and nothing else. When we look behind an appearance, we look through it to the truth that lies behind it. As soon as the spiritual truth is evident to us, the appearance changes. This is the mental world that Fox spoke of, not the material world.
Abundance is a deeply spiritual lesson because it is about knowing that the presence within you constitutes your supply, which is your true source of power. Attune to your true self and channel the energies you need to create the life you desire. You can do it!
Charlene M. Proctor, Ph.D., author of Let Your Goddess Grow! 7 Spiritual Lessons on Female Power and Positive Thinking and The Women’s Book of Empowerment: 323 Affirmations that Change Everyday Problems into Moments of Potential (2005) provides guidance through everyday complexity with female imagery and positive thinking. Focusing on the Divine Self, and setting a mental equivalent to institute positive change on earth, has always provided the infrastructure to Charlene’s work as a researcher and simulation architect. She is deeply committed to helping others along their soul journey. Please visit http://www.thegoddessnetwork.net and register for her many self-help and inspirational programs, which include The Divine Woman, a free monthly newsletter!
Tags: positive thinking, self empowerment, spirituality, womens issuesShower Heads Women vs. Men
Posted on October 25, 2008 - Filed Under women\'s eye care | Leave a Comment
First let me tell you that this article was NOT intended to be humorous at all. It was simply meant to be an informational piece about shower heads and what people preferred. The more I investigated the more I found there were huge differences between what men want vs. what women want in shower head. The more men and women I talked with the more obvious and humorous the differences became. I even had much insight into the completely different yet hilarious shower habits and “rituals” of men and women. As funny as these habits are most men will relate to the men’s habits and women will relate to the women’s habits. I bet you will too.
What will really tickle your funny bone is when YOU present or email this article to your partner, friends, relatives, coworkers, or whomever you know. Be sure to ask them their opinions on it. I will venture a guess that the responses you receive will be humorously similar to the observations I have made (even though they are completely blown out of proportion).
Before I get into the shower head differences it may be helpful to note the shower habits women and men have. This is important because there tends to be a direct relationship between these habits and what shower head is preferred.
Women: Their Shower Ritual
Most men cannot even fathom the strange “rituals” that go on when a woman showers. They only thing men know is that when the door shuts this “ritual” will last anywhere from 30 minutes to about 5 hours. After which the door swings open, steam erupts out of the bathroom, and a barely noticeable figure is standing, almost glowing, in the midst of it. It is pretty much like something out of a sci-fi movie.
Women have this “armory” of products they “absolutely need” to conduct this shower “ritual.” What we are talking about here is 30 different kinds of shower gels, soaps, scrubs, and whatnot that will take care of dry skin, flaky skin, oily skin, combination skin, slightly oily flaky dry skin, flaky oily something or other skin, etc. Each is pleasantly scented that can resemble a fragrance such as frosting, cakes, chocolate, candy, and assorted fruits and berries which can relax or invigorate their senses. Women also require somewhere around 5 shampoos and 9 conditioners, each with different purposes for their ever-changing hairstyles as well as an assortment of wash cloths, scrubbers, buffers, bath puffs, etc. for each of their “10,029″ parts. To top it all off they require assorted hair removal tools including shaving mousses, gels, creams, before and after shaving gels, etc. Somehow women manage to cram all of this into the 26 rack they have hanging in the shower.
Women take their time in the shower, obviously. Covering every nook and cranny on their body. Inspecting every square inch for any sort of imperfection that can be taken care of by one of the many showering products they use. They will wash their hair not once, not twice, but repeatedly until there is no shampoo and conditioner left in the house even the hidden backups under the sink and stashed in the attic. Even when all of this care is done they still must go through their “after shower ritual.” Consuming another 10 hours of their day for a 1-hour outing. But, you won’t hear me complain because the end result is always stunning and beautiful.
Men: Their Shower Ritual
Now let’s take a look at the shower “ritual” of a man. Well, it isn’t much of a ritual at all. You see men are quite simple creatures. They require very little in the way of showering items or even time.
More than likely if you look in a man’s shower you will see 5 or so items; a rarely used washcloth, a bar of soap (usually with the name of a hotel on it), cheap shampoo/conditioner combo (only if he has hair), and possibly a razor with shaving cream. That is it!
Men do not take much time at all because they are the MASTERS of the 30-second shower. Typically men will fiddle around for a bit running the bar of soap around their body with special attention to armpits and those “other” 2 spots. They will hold their fingernails under the spray and hope that any gunk gets shot out. Men will wash their hair just once rinsing it while they do wash it. The washcloth generally sits unused but sometimes will be used for that “extra cleaning” for church days, birthdays, Christmas, Mother’s Day, and anniversaries. Just ask a bunch of men how well they scrub their backs and how often!
So What Do Women And Men Want In A Shower Head?
Now that you know the differences in “rituals” women and men have you can plainly see that showering for women is all about indulging, pampering, beauty, relaxation, variety, stimulation of senses, and gentle care for their body. You can also see that men just want to get in and get out of the shower as fast as they can with as little work as possible, plain and simple. By knowing these distinctions you can see why each prefers the type of shower head they do.
Women: Typically women prefer a shower head that provides a gentle stream of water so that it contacts their skin in a soothing pleasing sort of way. Most generally soft water, water saving types of shower heads where the water just has enough force to hit the middle of the shower. If it sprays too hard it will be uncomfortable to perform their entire shower “ritual.” If you see any shower head models with the words water saver, sweet, serenity, soft, gentle, soothing, calm, or mild then it’s a good choice for a shower head for a woman.
Men: Most men would agree that soft just does not cut it. Instead of spending time scrubbing every body part they would prefer a shower head that can literally BLAST the grime right off. What would be better if it just removes the skin altogether. For men you should look for shower head models like the Skin Remover 2150 (yes I made that up) or anything with the words blaster, shooter, drencher, or acupuncture in it.
Women: Women also prefer a shower head that gives them a variety of settings that well help them feel pampered and indulge in their shower experience. They would prefer settings similar to tropical rainfall, summer mist, cascading waterfall, spring drizzle, etc.
Men: Forget all the soft gentle settings. The only reason men would want a huge range of settings is to be able to increase water pressure. That is all.
Women: A shower is prime relaxation time for women. It is a mandatory part of their shower “ritual.” Hey, women get sore muscles and stressed just as much as men do. This is why women like shower heads with 70 different massage settings that provide varying degrees of relaxation. Keep in mind that those massage settings still must be gentle so that they remain as comfortable as possible.
Men: Now men also like those massage settings. Again, only because they tend to increase water pressure. The massage settings should not be anything gentle. Usually a shower head with a single “machine gun” massage setting that can shoot holes through someone’s body knocking them to the back of the shower disfigured and dismembered is what men really prefer.
Women: The most important preference women have for a shower head is that it compliments the bathroom decor. If it does not look good with the decor it won’t be found anywhere near the bathroom despite any cool features the shower head has.
Men: Who cares what it looks like as long as the darned thing works! Pretty much well anything that resembles a fire hose that can shoot a stream of water 3 blocks down the street and distribute enough water to fill a backyard swimming pool in less than 3 minutes is all that is required.
Okay, so now you know what men and women want in a shower head. If you have separate his and her showers then half the battle is won already. All you have to do is install the best shower head according to what you and your partner prefer. However, there are people who have no choice but to share a shower with their loving partner. The trick here is to install a shower head that is has as many of the features preferred by women that also has a skin ripping blaster and a machine gun massage setting preferred by men. If you somehow find one, you and your partner will have the best shower experience of your lives.
John Dorwart is the president and co-founder of the ever popular Jorbins Lifestyle Magazine: http://www.jorbins.com/ — At Jorbins we have a special section filled with articles that will help you to improve your bathroom as well as your house and home. It’s all free to read so check it out at: http://www.jorbins.com/home-improvement-decorating/
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